In this pilot episode, host Karen Brown explores a personal family secret: a sister she didn’t know was her father’s daughter until they were all in their 20s.
By talking to her family members — including her mother, her three sisters (including her half sister), and her late father (before he died in 2017), she tries to understand the shame and stigma involved in keeping a family scandal under wraps, and how that can affect your world view and relationships. She also comes clean about her own long-held feelings about the secret and its implications.
![The locket that Rex gave his daughter Michele in 1972, long before she knew he was her father, atop a letter he wrote to her.](https://npr.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/ecc49bb/2147483647/strip/true/crop/1920x1080+0+0/resize/880x495!/quality/90/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fnpr-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F5f%2F17%2F73c5057d4c89a1e718145cb4d32f%2Frex-locket-on-letter.jpg)
We meet Michael Slepian, a professor at Columbia University, who studies the psychology of secret keeping.
And, Karen explains her original interest in the potential harms of secrecy, and why, as a journalist, she has always been a fan of radical openness.
But, what's the difference between privacy and secrecy?
The Secrets We Keep is written/produced/hosted by Karen Brown, edited by Sam Hudzik, with music by Katie Semro.